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Review: Don't Forget the Lyrics

I was glad to see this show return this Summer.  I’ve always been a fan of Wayne Brady and he is an excellent host no matter what show he is hosting.

The episode I caught recently was a celebrity edition where the celebs were singing to win money for their favorite charity.

Now I have a back-story on this celebrity I’m getting ready to talk about.  My best-friend Lauren is a huge fan of Meatloaf (the singer, not the food).  I find this ironic because Lauren is also a vegetarian (and almost a legal “Little Person” as well – but that is a story for another day).

Well lo and behold, the celebrity that was being featured for this edition of Don’t Forget the Lyrics was none other than Meatloaf and his daughter, Pearl, who turns out, can SANG, I think she can sing better than Meatloaf, personally – she also comes off way less weird than Mr. Loaf.  This is bound to upset Lauren, but like George Washington, I cannot tell a lie.

We also were able, almost against our will, to learn the story of why he is called “Meatloaf”…turns out “Meat” was a nickname his father gave him as a child (can that be considered child abuse? Me thinks so – in some states).  Well then he tried out for football in high school and stepped on the coach’s foot…who snapped at him “watch out you loaf!” (I would love to know what year that happened in).  The next day he came to school and someone had combined his nickname Meat and Loaf…thus producing the icon we know as Meatloaf.  God help us all.

Back to the point – Don’t Forget the Lyrics is back, Wayne is still funny, Meatloaf is still tasty, Pearl is actually a diamond in the rough, and all is well in t.v. land.

How to Get Organized with Daily Routines

Apparently Americans are an unorganized lot because there’s a lot of talk, both online and offline, about how to get organized. You’ll find magazines with featured articles about it and television shows devoted to nothing but organizing your home. If you listen to many of these sources, you’ll find that one of the easiest ways to get organized is with a daily routine.

What is a daily routine and how can it help you get organized? A routine is another word for a habit. It’s something you’ve done much the same way for so long that you don’t even have to think about it anymore. You can easily create a routine for getting organized. Let’s look at the concept and see how it can be used to get your home organized.

Bedtime routine – Take 20 minutes to work in one area of the house:

1. Kitchen – Waking up to a sink full of dirty dishes is enough to make anyone dread getting up in the morning. Before you go to bed, make sure your dishes are done. Either wash them by hand or start the dishwasher.
2. Living room – Pick up anything that doesn’t belong in that room and take it where it goes.
3. Bathroom – Make sure all clothes and towels are picked up off the floor and put into the laundry.
4. Bedroom – Put your clothes into the laundry and pick out your clothes for the next day.

Take some time to plan your day. Think about what you have to do tomorrow and write down anything else you may remember. This will give you a chance to clear your brain and allow you to sleep better.

Morning routine – This will help you get your day off to a good start.

1. Empty the dishwasher.
2. Make breakfast, washing dishes as you go. When you’re done eating, put dishes into the dishwasher to start later.
3. Check your calendar to make sure you’re aware of any appointments.
4. Thaw a frozen dinner by putting it in the refrigerator.
5. Start a load of laundry.

Afternoon routine – If you’re at home during the day, use the time to clean areas you may not have gotten to earlier. Dry, fold, and put away the load of clothes you washed earlier. You may want to take time to make a tentative schedule of when you’ll complete other weekly cleaning.

The more things you can create a routine for when cleaning and organizing your home, the better. Routines, when they’re done often enough, become second nature to you and you don’t have to think about what to do next. Take the time to create your own and then get organized with daily routines.

A Wife Is Entitled To Financial Intimacy

If you had a financially intimate marriage that would minimize your friction about money and increase your opportunities for love.

What does it mean to have a financially intimate marriage? Culturally, we link the concept of intimacy with romance, not realizing that we are talking about two different things. Romance is make-believe, it’s Disney, it’s a stage set – and it’s great.

But not when it comes to money, which operates in the real world. When we think about money romantically, we’re basically not thinking at all. We’re just fantasizing, linking money with love when in fact, money is money and love is love.

We need a wider definition of intimacy, a concept we currently link with the physical, sexual or emotional revealing of ourselves to another person in a most private way. We need to think of intimacy as transparency, especially when it comes to marital finances because so much is at stake.

Unfortunately, full financial disclosure is still treated as taboo in many marriages, especially when the man makes the big money decisions. A wife may be contributing a significant amount of money through her work, yet may go decades knowing little about her shared finances.  In many cases, her financial insecurity does not become evident until she is divorced, which is the worst possible time to begin grappling with money troubles or decisions. It’s also the worst possible time to learn about the basics of money management.

The problem goes even deeper. Failure to achieve financial intimacy in your marriage creates a climate of resentment, suspicion and lack of trust. If you’re feeling angry, patronized, ignored or shut out when it comes to finances, your feelings are certain to spill over into other areas of the marriage.  Sex, honesty, closeness, trust, parenting – all will be affected on a conscious or subconscious level.

Bad feelings don’t go away; they redistribute. One acquaintance put it very colorfully: “He expects sex twice a night, but he won’t tell me what our net worth is.”

Financial intimacy creates financial equality between husband and wife. It doesn’t mean that you earn the same. It means that you both know what the other earns, how you spend it, how you save it, what your shared goals are and how you intend to achieve them.

It’s not about trusting, hoping or assuming that your husband is doing everything right. It’s about knowing and understanding what he is doing because everything he does affects you.

That’s what being an equal partner means. You are part of a fifty/fifty relationship. In fact, marriage has many of the same structural characteristics as a business partnership.  You, as a partner, have a right, and the law supports your right, to all the financial information about your partnership. If you are the primary breadwinner in your family, your husband has that same right.

You are not entitled to special treatment because you are a woman, but to equal treatment because you are a partner. You may earn less than your husband, but you take the same amount of financial risk for decisions made within your partnership.

If you find yourself widowed or divorced, some things will be immediately clear. You will need financial resources and the skills to manage them. You will need to understand basic finances so you won’t have to rely on family members, friends or a financial advisor to tell you what to do. You will need to understand and sign contracts on your own. You will need to know how to do the financial things that you relied on your husband to do for you.

Don’t rely on your husband to do the finances. Participate, understand, keep a copy of the records, ask questions, and assume that you have a right to all the financial information that affects you both.

The law supports your right to have it!

(c) 2008, Helga Hayse.  Reprints welcomed so long as the article and byline are kept intact and all links are made live.

Helga Hayse is author of “Don’t Worry About A Thing, Dear” – Why Women Need Financial Intimacy. She teaches women about participating and understanding their marital finances. She speaks to financial planners and estate planners about how to encourage crucial conversation between generations. Visit her site at http://www.financialintimacy.com for her frequently updated blog, free articles and more information about her book.

Pushing Daisies Returns!

Well, not REALLY, but for a minute, we were all fooled!

Apparently, ABC, decided to play a cruel joke.  I mean we all knew that Pushing Daisies had been canceled, and it seemed to sputter out and disappear.  But then lo and behold, a new episode came on – needless to say, we were all thrilled.

To make matters worse, it was a really really good episode! How dare they leave us panting for more and then find out that there are only two episodes left? Do they really think they are letting us all down easy or remember the show fondly if they tie up all the loose ends instead of just quickly exiting the stage? I’ll never figure this one out.

In related matters, I still can’t understand this string of bad luck following Chi McBride, first Boston Public, now Pushing Daisies, He’s too talented of an actor to have his career pushing up daisies.

On a positive (keep your fingers crossed people) Chi is rumored to have signed on for one of three main characters for a 2010 t.v. series entitled Human Target.  The back story on this new show is that a bodyguard/detective portrays intended victims and becomes the “target” for attempted murders.  Hopefully this plot, that doesn’t sound real interesting – but I won’t pre-judge, will stick around longer than this latest t.v. show.

As for Pushing Daisies – I think the show is finally dead.

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