How Healthy Are Your Friendships? Advice for Moms

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One of the areas on the “wheel of life” are relationships. Good relationships are essential to our own personal growth.

This week, let’s talk about your friendships. Are your relationships healthy, toxic, supportive or conditional?

Mother’s are excellent at making sure that our children have friendships that are fulfilling and validating. Often, as moms we don’t follow the same advice for ourselves to ensure that we have a community that mirrors the support we need. Many times, we build and keep relationships because they are convenient. Is this you?

Do your relationships need a tune up? Answer the following questions:

1. Do you find it difficult to share how you truly feel with your friends?
2. Are your friends your soft place to fall or do you always have to be the “tree trunk”?
3. Are your friends competitive and always trying to one up you?
4. Do your friends find it difficult to celebrate your success?
5. Or, are you always the friend who is accommodating (babysitting, picking up a car-pool etc..)?
6. Do you feel loved by your friends?

Did any of these resonate with you? If so, then it is time for a friendship tune up. Every so often, I recommend that we take some time and look at our friendships. There are tons of people in the world who want to love and support you, if you let them. Do you need to elevate your relationships?

I encourage you to Dream Big in regards to your relationships. You can have friendships that are loving, supportive and honest. Elevating our relationships begins with us making the decision to Raise our standards for our life. Create a wish list for the ideal relationship that you would like to have. Consider the following when making new friends:

1. What does good look in my relationships? i.e. Supportive, Friends who enjoy getting together, Friends that make me smile, Great listeners or talkers, Emotional Available etc..
2. What types of friends do I already have? What types of relationships do I still want?
3. What can I do to make a new friend? If you like to cook, perhaps you could exchange phone numbers with individuals in your cooking class on Tuesday night. Be creative.
4. What is possible when I expand my circle of friends? Who might you meet?
5. How can I be a better friend to myself?

Challenge - Fine tune your relationships. You deserve a life that is supportive and validating. Don’t you?Don’t settle, trust me you deserve it! And to get you started creating your own list of goals, I would like to invite you to claim your free access to my E-book “Eliminating Mommy Burn-Out”. Get free access at www.helpformomsreport.com

From Mia Redrick- Author, Time for mom-Me:5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care and Finding Definitions, the premier self-care community for mothers www.findingdefinitions.com

COMING IN SEPTEMBER 2008! Time for mom-Me Retreat