Over the past few days I have gone through the stages of motherhood with you including: Infants & Toddlers, Elementary Ages, Teenagers and now College to Adult Children.
A Child Leaving Home Doesn’t Mean You’re Not A Mother Anymore.
To some it make seem like a blessing that your child is leaving to others it may seem like the world is going to end. As mothers our job is to raise our children and send them out into the world to make a way for themselves. Just because they leave doesn’t mean we won’t ever be needed. However the boundaries of telling our children what to do are getting finer. Here are some resources to help you figure out those boundaries.
For those moms sending your child off to college 1001 Things Every College Student Needs to Know: (Like Buying Your Books Before Exams Start)
gives a lot of advice for your new college student. This book is going to share everything from housing advice to planning which classes to take and even how to develop great study habits.
Maybe your child decided to not attend college but you still want them to achieve everything that they possibly can. You need to read Parenting Your Adult Child: How You Can Help Them Achieve Their Full Potential
Maybe your child just hit their 20′s and needs some help gauging maturity. Help Your Twentysomething Get a Life…And Get It Now: A Guide for Parents
The kids are gone and now is a time for natural change. Loving Midlife Marriage: A Guide to Keeping Romance Alive From the Empty Nest Through Retirement
Remember even though the kids are gone life hasn’t ended. It won’t be long and you can spoil the grandchildren and then send them home.
My kids are still tiny, but I think this post is important because most parents miss this stage. At least my mom did, & almost every other person I know, their parents missed it too! I found myself out of college without a clue what to do!
I am the proud mom of 3 children… two of which are out on their own and I absolutely LOVE IT! The relationship i have with my older daughters is beautiful and strong. I always tell other parents that just because you aren't tucking them in each night doesn't mean your job is over..lol! I really have learned to love each stage of parenting and your series of posts re: these stages have been great!
Awww – thats such a hard thing on our young-adult-kids! My almost 23 yo and I talk all of the time and i still provide guidance to her across the miles. Also…. she helps me with things that I share with her as well. Its really awesome!
I think that this is an extremely important subject that often gets missed between parents and their kids at this stage.