When I married my wife she would ask me why I don’t talk to my mother more. My mom lived in North Carolina so we didn’t see her often but I also never talked to her on the phone. This was weird for my wife who is so close to her family.
After much questioning from my wife I decided to start calling my mom and keep in touch with my family more, this made my wife happy. About a year after we were married she finally got to meet my mom and it went ok, she just thought my mom was weird. This continued to get worse thru the years until finally it got to the point where my wife understood why I didn’t talk to my mom much.
During this time my mom also left me subtle “hints” that she didn’t really care for my wife and was ok if I wanted to visit with her without Tracy. It finally hit a point where when my mom came to stay at my house to spend time with the grandkids and by the end of the visit they didn’t even pretend to get along. Since my mom moved back they have both been making an effort to get along but taking it slow.
We need to all get along so my kids can spend time with their grandparents and maybe see some of my family. My wife and I don’t have a lot of things in common with my mom, we cannot figure out how I came from her. If it came down to choosing my wife would win every time, she mothered my kids and puts up with me, my mom couldn’t. I just hope we don’t get to that point, my kids need to know I have a family too.
